Divorce is ugly.

In some cases divorce is necessary, and thus I am grateful for the ease at which people can terminate their marriages.  However, in many of marriages divorce ends in heartache.  Look at the effect on the children, on the extended family, on friends, on the community.  A marriage is not just about the husband and wife.  It is as Dietrich Bonhoeffer says,

“Marriage is more than your love for each other. … In your love you see only your two selves in the world, but in marriage you are a link in the chain of the generations, which God causes to come and to pass away to his glory, and calls into his kingdom. In your love you see only the heaven of your own happiness, but in marriage you are placed at a post of responsibility towards the world and mankind. Your love is your own private possession, but marriage is more than something personal—it is a status, an office. Just as it is the crown, and not merely the will to rule, that makes the king, so it is marriage, and not merely your love for each other, that joins you together in the sight of God and man. … So love comes from you, but marriage from above, from God.”

The end of a marriage union causes so much negativity.  Look at the pain the once spouses face as they are again alone.  Reflect on the struggles the children have as they are often forced to choose which parent to live with, and who's side to be on.  Think about the awkwardness for the grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, etc.  And of course, consider the struggles future blended families will have as they try to deal with all of this pain and emotional baggage.

Of course it isn't always possible, but shouldn't the sanctity of marriage be something that we fight for?  This isn't just about our own happiness, we need to look outside ourselves.  Successful marriages take work, effort, sacrifice, compromise, communication, patience, humility, love, and most importantly time.  Don't give up so fast.




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Guardian Angels

Today I want to talk about more of a religious thought.  It was something that touched me a lot when I read it, here's the article:

We Believe in the Ministering of Angels

I loved the thought that was discussed, of our ministering angels being our ancestors.  It makes so much sense to me that even after death Heavenly Father works to keep the family unit together.  If God were to send anyone to help us, who would have the best ability to comfort and strengthen us, it would have to be our family.  We grow closest to these people, and they are the ones who know us best in order to help us the most!

As a parent of a struggling child, you have the RIGHT to ask for this help and support. Your ancestors are ready and able to guide and support you as you work to help your own children.

"We are never alone in the work of redemption." God will always send the help that you need, as long as you simply ask.


"Trust God and believe in good things to come." Elder Jeffrey R. Holland

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